- Now here is my point.... they only stay with me. They usually don't ask and usually don't tell me they are coming, they show up at my house ( yes they have a key... instant regrets about that).
The "Miss" Adventures of Miss.Carter
This is a blog about my life story and how I have dealt with the good and bad and the ugly; my failures and my triumphs, my highs and lows! I would invite you to come on an adventure and share in the craziness that is my life.
Tuesday, June 26, 2018
Respect
Monday, June 25, 2018
The "SINGLE" mentally
Something I dont understand is the single mentally. Such as when women says they're a single mother when the father of their child is very active. No boo your not a single mother your SINGLE. Point blank period. Why do some women call themselves single mother's? Its like they want someone to feel sorry for them or they want to feel like their struggle so great when in all actuality its not. Now dont get me wrong being the primary parent is by no means easy. Having to deal with the daily needs of a child can be taxing on the mind and soul. Im no longer with the father of my children and I dont not .......will not consider myself a single mother. Why??? Cause my children's father are very active. Being single mean there are no breaks, no father no nothing. If that man is doing something even paying child support then sis you anit doing it alone you have help. If that man isn't paying child support but spends time with the child... sis you anit a single mother.. your SINGLE!
So stop playing the victim we do not feel sorry for you having to raise your child and that you're the primary parent. Maybe next time you would think twice about who you lay with.
I know of this one chick who had two kids by two different men and sis was struggling hard. It seemed she couldn't get her life together and then she got a new job, new house and a car. Then she got pregnant again this time with twins
.....now what I dont understand was if you was struggling with the two kids and getting little to no help with the kids you already had.. why would you repeat history? And then complain about being a "SINGLE" mother? Are you single because the men you picked sucked or are you single by choice? To me it feels like a choice after the 1st time its a choice. You know what they say instantly is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. And you know sometimes your in a relationship and it doesn't work out, it happens...move on and do your best at co parenting. Dont break up and soon after that start calling yourself a single mother.. no sis your single.
What are your thoughts on what a SINGLE mother is? To me it means a mom that does it day in day out no help physically or financially. A women that has to hold it down because there is no one else is there to support her. Any kid of help from the father does not qualify you to be a single mom even if it's he does it today and doesn't do it for a couple of months and then comes back today and doesn't do it for another couple months you're not a single mother. What that means is your baby daddy ain't s*** and he's not consistent but you're still not a single mother.
Lets talk about it... what makes a SINGLE mother?
Saturday, May 19, 2018
Alone.
The older I get Im noticing my priorities change. I notice I dont wanna hang out late anymore. Going to the club is now exchanged with hanging out with my TV. Getting "lit" is in the past when you are over 30 with kids and a man. But why as women do we do that? Why do we exchange our friends for our family? Can you have it both?
I find myself foregoing events with friends for the chance to experience it with either my kids or my man. Why? Cant I have it both ways? Cant I enjoy my girl time and my family time?
As a women sometimes we give too much of ourselves for others in return we expect the same and get mad when we don't get. Is that far?
I get lost and confused navigating the balance between family and friends.
Friday, April 6, 2018
Why does it seem like black man are financially un-stable?
But when I date I feel like what are these men doing? How you are over 35 and still don’t have your crap together? And I hate to think like that because I don't know their story or what had happen, BUT when ask these men and listening I'm just looking at them like AND YOUR POINT SIR? I still don't understand how some of these men don't have their crap together and as women we usually do or have to get our crap together. I don’t fault my kings because I don’t know their struggle. I do wish there was more I could do one to understand it more and to help.
What I do know as a mother of two kings it’s my job to make sure my sons have a healthy understanding of finances and wealth. Hopefully I can teach them something and help them in some way. I do know that our parents and the generations before us talk enough about finances and I think that has hurt us some. So my question still stands why aren't more black men financially strong compared to black women and if they are how did they do it? What are your thoughts?
Thursday, March 15, 2018
My Student Loans Can Kiss My A$$
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Wednesday, March 14, 2018
Moving on from bitterness
Wednesday, March 7, 2018
The aftermath of a family secret part 1.
Respect
How do you show and command respect at the same damn time? I have this issue and not a clue how to fix it. I'm adopted and I have 12 ...
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I was reading this blog about how a single mom was dealing with having to pay back student loans and I must say this blog was EVERY...
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Something I dont understand is the single mentally. Such as when women says they're a single mother when the father of their child is ve...
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How do you show and command respect at the same damn time? I have this issue and not a clue how to fix it. I'm adopted and I have 12 ...