The "SINGLE" mentally

Something I dont understand is the single mentally. Such as when women says they're a single mother when the father of their child is very active. No boo your not a single mother your SINGLE. Point blank period. Why do some women call themselves single mother's? Its like they want someone to feel sorry for them or they want to feel like their struggle so great  when in all actuality its not. Now dont get me wrong being the primary parent is by no means easy. Having to deal with the daily needs of a child can be taxing on the mind and soul. Im no longer with the father of my children and I dont not .......will not consider myself a single mother. Why??? Cause my children's father are very active. Being single mean there are no breaks, no father no nothing. If that man is doing something even paying child support then sis you anit doing it alone you have help. If that man isn't paying child support but spends time with the child... sis you anit a single mother.. your SINGLE!

So stop playing the victim we do not feel sorry for you having to raise your child and that you're the primary parent. Maybe next time you would think twice about who you lay with.

I know of this one chick who had two kids by two different men and sis was struggling hard. It seemed she couldn't get her life together and then she got a new job, new house and a car. Then she got pregnant again this time with twins
.....now what I dont understand was if you was struggling with the two kids and getting little to no help with the kids you already had.. why would you repeat history? And then complain about being a "SINGLE" mother? Are you single because the men you picked sucked or are you single by choice? To me it feels like a choice after the 1st time its a choice. You know what they say instantly is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. And you know sometimes your in a relationship and it doesn't work out, it happens...move on and do your best at co parenting. Dont break up and soon after that start calling yourself a single mother.. no sis your single.

What are your thoughts on what a SINGLE mother is? To me it means a mom that does it day in day out no help physically or financially. A women that has to hold it down because there is no one else is there to support her. Any kid of help from the father does not qualify you to be a single mom even if it's he does it today and doesn't do it for a couple of months and then comes back today and doesn't do it for another couple months you're not a single mother. What that means is your baby daddy ain't s*** and he's not consistent but you're still not a single mother.

Lets talk about it... what makes a SINGLE mother?